Before getting hurt, ask

Nowadays there are many problems around us when pointing out the differences between ideologies up to the point that it is really hard to follow up on the slang or language that we need to use to avoid being racists or to avoid hurting people around us.

It is hard to talk without hurting others by expressing ourselves without considering who we have in front of us. It is really easy to get hurt, especially if we are being sensitive about a certain topic or situation around us that affects us in a negative way. Therefore, when people talk lightheartedly and without knowing us it is very easy to feel insulted, but the problem is not the insult they made, but the fact that we do not consider the fact that they do not know us enough; meaning that our being hurt is not justified when we are being «offended». 

If we think that people ought and should know what they are saying, we may be wrong. Regarding people that we hardly know and haven’t talked to or know for real, we cannot expect them to know that they are «insulting» us. If we are smarter than them we cannot be offended so easily by what they are saying, we better guarantee it by asking them «what do you mean by that expression?» then with their response we can signal whether they are wrong, instead of losing our minds and end up making the same insulting judgement to them.

If we want to be understood, we need to communicate and discuss, instead of reacting to make others feel bad for making us feel bad. World peace builds on dialogue, not on feelings.