Stop adding subtitles

A lot of things happen in our lives, many of which simply happen and others that we expect to come. Life goes on. it is in constant movement and keeps on moving without our participation in it. As a matter of controlling what is going on around us, we tend to explain or make possitive or negative comments about what is around us.

Noticing details and trying to explain our surroundings is a scientific trait.

The problem is when we are always expecting to make sense or add our thought to what is happening. That kind of attitude towards others can be annoying because of the way we analyze things which tends to make us be felt as trying to be superior. For example: when someone talks about a party, the way he or she expresses may seem unfair, superficial or out-of-line, and so we judge him or her to be inappropiate, and with that comes an expression of despise. That kind of behavior is perceived as a way to say «what your saying is not worth it» and so people react to us in a defensive way.

We may think we are helping others, when in fact we become a judge that discriminates people for what they say or what they think, and that becomes a personal matter. We are not rejecting an action but the whole person for it. If we think about it that is why people don’t like us, because we are always judging them. We may not want to show our despise but our actions do.

The lack of information or the wrong one makes us angry at what we are listening to and so we make it personal when in fact, it wasn’t meant to be. People say things we may or may not agree with, but they don’t intend to make a personal problem out of everything. That is why we judge and say what we think but in anger. We put subtitles to what is happening as if our thoughts are more important than facts.

Our thoughts are important but no more than realizing that what is around us is important too. Many of our problems come from the need to make it personal, so we put on subtitles instead of paying attention to the main idea. Stop getting angry at what we think others want, insted listen to them to understand and help them see the real problem. Don’t make it personal.