You are not into truth…

Gigi: Girls are taught a lot of stuff growing up. If a guy punches you he likes you. Never try to trim your own bangs and someday you will meet a wonderful guy and get your very own happy ending. Every movie we see, Every story we’re told implores us to wait for it, the third act twist, the unexpected declaration of love, the exception to the rule. But sometimes we’re so focused on finding our happy ending we don’t learn how to read the signs. How to tell from the ones who want us and the ones who don’t, the ones who will stay and the ones who will leave. And maybe a happy ending doesn’t include a guy, maybe… it’s you, on your own, picking up the pieces and starting over, freeing yourself up for something better in the future. Maybe the happy ending is… just… moving on. Or maybe the happy ending is this, knowing after all the unreturned phone calls, broken-hearts, through the blunders and misread signals, through all the pain and embarrassment you never gave up hope.

The movie «He’s not that into you» talks about dating and finding the love of your life, and how we make up excusses about love and the fact that women are blind to see that men don’t like them and they don’t want to marry them, to prove the point there are 5 different cases of women living a lie in love:

• Gigi: is obssesed with finding her true love and is open to what her firends, Janine and Beth tell her. She is a shallow girl, a blonde, until she meets Alex (a bar owner). Alex coaches Gigi in the art of dating and when to know when a guy is interested in her and when not. Alex shows Gigi the dating game and why it is so ridiculous to try and make it a business. He shows her that some men just date for sports or to be entertained for a while, and women want the whole deal in only the first date.

• Beth: has been dating her boyfriend for 7 years and she is frustrated beacuse Neil doesn’t believe in marriage, but she is also comfortable with him and tries not to pressure him because she is afraid to end up alone.

• Janine: is married to Ben, friend of Neil, and they got married very young. She represents the «exception to the rule» by being with her high-school sweet-heart just because she pressured Ben to marry her or leave her.

• Anna: is in love with Ben, with whom she has an affair and is convinced that true love is found anywhere with anyone. The problem is that Ben is afraid of his wife and in love with Anna, but she is not willing to share him because she knows she deserves true love.

• Mary: is a woman obssesed with online dating because she is afraid to meet someone «out of the blue». She prefers to stalk them first and then date them without wasting time and getting her feelings hurt.

The movie presents not only women. Although, the main spotlight are these women, we also get a hint to a man’s mind about marriage. They all fell for the same idea of true love and romance. It is a two-way vision about what dating means to men and women but also how they all want love but they’re not willing to fight for it because they are all afraid to get their hearts broken.

Alex: So trust me when I say if a guy is treating you like he doesn’t give a shit, he genuinely doesn’t give a shit. No exceptions.

If we don’t realize who we are and what we want, we may end up with someone we don’t like. The main problem in the movie, and in real life has to do with facing truth, seeing what is real and what is not. We tend to mix and confuse feelings with reality and we end up confusing what we want with what is actually happening, so things end up blowing up in our faces just because we didn’t pay attention to what was really happening.

The truth may be hard to bear but it is necessary for our survival. We cannot pretend something is not happening just because we don’t like it. Don’t be afraid to love; it is the right path for happiness. If you see this clearly, then it is yours; don’t force it.