Things just don’t happen

When things happen we are able to see it in different perspectives. When you chose it freely and prepared for it, it was a glorious and important milestone in your life. When it was forced upon you against your will, it was one of the most terrifying and painful experiences of your life. Often the only difference between a problem being painful or being powerful is a sense that we chose it, and that we are responsible for it.  

This different views have to do with how we feel over things that happens to us. When we feel that we’re choosing our problems, we feel empowered. When we feel that our problems are being forced upon us against our will, we feel victimized and miserable.   

We don’t always control what happens to us. But we always control how we interpret what happens. We are able to reccount what is happening according to what we feel about things, the weather, or our health.

We are always choosing the values by which we live and the metrics by which we measure everything that happens to us and to others. Often the same event can be good or bad, depending on the metric we choose to use, how things are developed according to our preferences. The point is, we are always choosing, whether we recognize it or not. 

We must all give importance or relevance about something. To not give it about anything is still to give meaning about something. There is no way we are indifferent to others or to anything.

What are we choosing to give meaning about? What values are we choosing to base our actions on? What metrics are we choosing to use to measure our life? And are those good choices—good values and good metrics?