To assume doesn’t mean it as fact
Language is a powerful tool, since humanity roams the earth there are many many ways we can know the world and relate to others. We first come up with an idea that we need to express; we formule it in our heads and then express it in a way that our receptor can receive the precise words to understand what we are saying. That is what a conversation is about. If it is not said, then nobody listens.
Many of us have assumed things about something or someone based on the little we know about them. Or perhaps we believe that we know others so well that we can even get ahead of what they are thinking and saying; that we can guess what they are about to do or think of a particular topic.
With so many social media interactions we are submerged in, we end up assuming many things with a twist: what we feel like at the time. That may cause many problems; most fights and disappointments begin with assuming what others didn’t say but we make it a fact when it isn’t. For example: the political situation with our candidates, politicians and presidents when they are in campaigns or making a foreing visit we may be surprised that they act another way they weren’t supposed to. The problem isn’t them, it may as well be us to blame because we supposed some posture that they didn’t even say or guarantee they were going to take.
To make sense in the world and stop suffering from things that aren’t told or suppositions that aren’t a fact, let’s begin with communicating again saying whatever we want loud and clear, so no one else falls in a mistaken concept that we may or may not have said. Let’s be clear.
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Gloria Castellanos
Un gran problema de asumir, es que conoces tu idea de la persona, no la persona tal cuál es; idealizar es limitarte a ver lo que quieres para satisfacer tus expectativas, siendo injusto contigo y con la persona que no aceptas tal cuál es; además de la enorme posibilidad de decepcionarte.
Madeleine Aupart Moreno
About assumptions:
First of all, the only way we can know what others think is with their actions. In other words, we should just consider a fact or true what people actually said or did and neither «what we think they meant» nor «what we think they thought». This because we are not them and we can not go against that truth. We may be the same in essence, as human beings, but we are not the same in form (it is individual).
We also assume things based on a few information of someone, and it may be an action we once saw she or she did. And even though we think we are supporting our assumptions on facts, we should also keep in mind the metaphysical principle stated by Aristotle: «the whole is more than the sum of its parts». In other words, we should not make an assumption based on just one part of a whole, which in this case an action or little information about someone is a part of the person as a whole.
In conclusion, in order to live better we should not consider things that were not said or done by others as facts or actions. Also that we should respect nature by being who we are and not trying to be someone else. And in order to accomplish this goal we should start by ourselves by keeping our communication as clear as possible. This means that we should say what it is, so that others don’t even get the chance to make wrong assumptions.